My Oral Technique Needs Work. How Can I Improve It?
Confused about how to go down on a woman? Cunnilingus is a learned skill, just like welding or baking a cake. Except sexier! Giving oral sex can be the gateway to orgasmic sex with your partner. Many women can't come through intercourse alone, so having oral sex skills is very important. Oral sex can be your most powerful sexual tool. With practice, you can become a cunnilingus Casanova. If you want to really please your partner, try these tips:
|My Oral Technique Needs Work. How Can I Improve It?|
Start by teasing. Kiss her, lick and grope her erogenous zones, work your way down her belly and skip over her genitals, focusing on her inner thighs instead. Circle closer to her labia, licking the outer labia first with long, slow strokes. Once you zero in on her genitals, lick her from bottom to top slowly, like you're licking an ice cream cone. All this prep work will have her begging for more.
Once she relaxes, add in different tongue strokes. Speed up a bit and focus on the clitoris. Try an edible lubricant to add wetness and flavor. She might love a warming or tingling lube.
Build intensity. Dive in! Use the flat part of your tongue to apply pressure around her clitoris. Try using light suction to gently suckle the clitoris. Insert one or two fingers into her vagina and curl the fingers up and toward her G-spot as you lick. You could also try a sex toy like the Pure Wand or the Tongue Dinger. Sex toys and vibrators make your job even easier.
Pay attention. She'll tell you what feels good with her moans and body language. If you feel her close her legs or draw back, she has a sensitive clitoris and would like you to back off. Long sighs and moans usually mean she's relaxed and into what you're doing. If she's enjoying herself, her clitoris and labia will swell and flush, and you might feel her writhe or press toward you. Ask her beforehand to communicate with you as to which licks feel best.
Once she's close, don't stop what you're doing! Most women like a steady rhythmic stimulation. If she's almost there, keep licking in the same fashion until she comes.
For more tips, consult a book like The Lowdown on Going Down. Here you'll find tongue exercises, positions, prepartion tips, anatomy lessons and a myriad of sexy licking techniques guaranteed to push her over the edge.