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Many couples have timing issues. The key to making sure both partners are pleased is foreplay. Keep reading for valuable information about oral sex, manual stimulation, sex toy play, and communication.

How to get over timing issues

Providing better foreplay for her

We Have Timing Issues. He Comes Quickly; She Doesn't. How Can We Resolve This?

One of the most confusing differences about men and women are our sexual needs. While it takes men just a few minutes to get off, it can take women at least 20 minutes, and that's with expert stimulation! Many women don't orgasm from penetrative sex alone and need help from a vibrator, tongue or fingers.

Many couples have timing issues. The key to making sure both partners are pleased is foreplay. You may or may not perfect the holy grail of climaxing at the same time, but the least you can do is please her before him. Oral sex, manual stimulation, sex toy play, exercises and of course, communication will help you make sure she comes too.

First off, try adding more foreplay to your sexual repertoire. Foreplay can start as early as cooking her dinner, giving her a backrub or listening to her talk about her day. Once you move into the bedroom, try focusing on kissing more than normal, or caressing and licking her body with slow, teasing strokes. Most women love oral sex and orgasm easier from oral than from intercourse. To brush up on your skills, try a book. Start slowly and work your way to a high-pressure, rhythmic lick. Ask her before hand to let you know when it feels good. Even if you don't make her climax this way, she'll be more turned on when you do have sex.

During sex, find positions that stimulate her clitoris. Try the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT). This technique involves rocking rather than thrusting. From the missionary position, the man scoots up the length of the woman's body, so his thrusts make contact with her clitoris. She wraps her legs around him and moves her ankles down toward his calves. They rock together to maintain clitoral contact. You can also try manually stimulating her clitoris during sex. This works best in rear-entry or modified man-on-top positions. You can use your hands or a small vibrator like the Nea. Vibrating cock rings also add clitoral stimulation.

Men can learn to last longer during sex by thinking about baseball. Just kidding! One method to avoid orgasm is to simply stop stimulation when you get close. Another involves pressing on the perineum, or taint. When you get close to orgasm, you or your partner should press firmly on the perineum with the first three fingers of either hand. Hold until the urge to ejaculate subsides.


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