|Prepare for a Great Date at the Fifty Shades of Grey Movie|
- Buy some of your favorite sex toys from the book.
Try ben-wa balls, spanking cream, a crop, and a blindfold.
You can ask your lover what he might be into, or you can surprise him—whatever you think might work well with your man. You don't want to intimidate him, so just grab what you think he might be interested in, or read him a few passages from the book to get a gauge on his reactions! Just make sure you grab a new toy before you head to the movie. If you aren't sure about sex toys, that's okay too ... his hands will work just fine for spankings.
- Buy your movie tickets online. This one is going to sell out fast, especially in those first few weeks.
- Practice using your ben-wa balls and other props.
You might want to put the ben-wa balls in for a solo run before the big night. Anastasia didn't know how ben-wa balls felt, or even what they were, but you have the advantage. Try using the ben-wa balls for kegels, or during masturbation. Test out your crop on your thigh and see what it is capable of. It is possible that on the big night you'll realize you much rather read about BDSM than take part in it, and that's okay! Getting a feel for the props will help you understand what you like ... and what your hard limits might be.
- Make reservations at a fancy hotel restaurant or bar.
Christian Grey is most at home in a hotel, it seems. Get on Yelp and find a hotel that serves Christian Grey's favorite aphrodisiacs: wine and oysters. Or maybe you can sip a Cosmopolitan, while your lover knocks back a Hendrick's with cucumber.
You could even stay the night at the hotel. Something about hotels makes couples feel naughtier. It's a chance to step out of the routine and try something different. Some hotels even have four-poster beds, which make for easier bondage.
- Rent an Audi or a Spider for the evening.
Okay, this one might be a bit extravagant. But I bet your lover would approve!
- Take a trip to the hardware store.
Here's where you can pick up your more hardcore items, if you want to go straight into the rough stuff. Natural fiber rope, cable ties, and of course ... coveralls. You wouldn't want to ruin your nice clothes.
- Start off the week with flirtatious and dirty emails.
Maybe better to send texts than to send raunchy emails on your work email! Get out your BlackBerry and let your lover know what you would like to do on your big date night. Start small if you aren't used to dirty texting, with something like, "I can't wait to get close to you on Saturday night," or "I really want you."
- Make a BDSM contract for the evening.
If you want to go the extra mile, make a BDSM contract with your lover. It can be on paper, or just something you discuss. Tell him what scenes in the movie you would like to act out, and which ones you aren't interested in. Perhaps you'd like to be spanked, but you don't want to experience being tied up. Maybe you're curious about being smacked with a crop, but you are worried he will really hurt you. Don't forget that he might have concerns and need reassurances as well. Talk these things out prior to your date night to ensure you have the best time. And don't forget to come up with a safe word: perhaps "yellow" and "red," just like in the book. If your lover is turned off by the idea of spanking you, you can always try something else sexy: like wearing a pair of vibrating panties to the movie and giving him the remote control.
- Dress up and play the part!
For him: Calvin Klein underwear, of course, and a grey suit. Grey tie optional. For you, try a slinky, plum-colored dress, like the one Anna borrows from Kate for her dates with Grey. Pair the dress with some knock-off Louboutins for even more dress-up fun.
- Enjoy your evening.
Now that the big night is here, it's okay to feel a little nervous. After all, you are trying something new. Try your best to stay in the spirit of fun, and remember that you don't have to do anything: just watching the film will be enough to turn both of you on, resulting in a night of hot sex. If you do decide to try light BDSM or role play, be patient, communicate, and give in to sensation. Who knows? Maybe you'll both love Fifty Shades of Grey kink so much that you'll turn it into a lifestyle!